How does it work?

Couples counseling is focused on the relationship. Your relationship is stuck due to patterns that are so ingrained in your day-to-day interactions that you just take it as a given that your partner will do (or not do) X if you ask them a question, a favor or even look for some sort of emotional support or connection. Couples counseling looks at these patterns, how it started but more importantly how these patterns were reinforced over and over again. There are clear goals for the therapy, structure to the therapy sessions, there is homework to keep progress moving forward. And there is someone facilitating a discussion between the two of you – a discussion that requires both individuals to understand their own perspectives and how they came to certain conclusions. Couples counseling focuses on building trust, communicating more effectively, healing from past hurts. And once these have been addressed, conflict begins to take a different shape. It becomes more malleable. Not as sharp and pointy. And certainly, does not have to leave emotional scars and bruises.